How Do I Tell My Parents I’m Pregnant?

Telling your parents you’re pregnant can be scary and intimidating. Not knowing how they will react can make you much more uneasy—will they cry, be upset, or both? 

Just as you felt overwhelmed and confused when you first discovered you were pregnant, your parents will also feel those same emotions. Their minds will start racing with what your pregnancy means for you, your future, and ultimately, the family. 

The Best Way to Tell Your Parents

First, don’t wait too long. Some pregnancies face complications, and if there is a situation where your pregnancy needs medical attention, you’ll want to make sure your parents are aware so they can help you make informed decisions about your health.

Also, the longer you wait, the higher the risk they will find out about your pregnancy from someone else, which can hurt them and complicate an already complicated situation.

When telling your parents, try to find a time when they are in a suitable environment physically and emotionally. Find a quiet, private place rather than a public setting with others around. 

You’ll also want to talk to them when they are calm, not upset about something else, or distracted by another situation.

One important note: Your safety is the top priority—if you ever find yourself in a situation where you feel like you are in physical danger, then call 911 right away and attempt to get to a safe place.

Have the Facts

One of the best ways to address your parent’s fears—and your own—is to know the facts about your pregnancy and options.

Knowing important details like how far along you are, if the pregnancy is viable, and what options you have can answer some of their immediate questions and concerns.

Sharing these details and ways your parents can support you can help reassure them about how your family will handle your pregnancy.

We’re Here to Help

The team at A Friend for You knows how overwhelming it can feel to face an unplanned pregnancy and the fear of how loved ones will react. That’s why we are here to help you get the answers and support you need. 

Our staff can connect you with trusted health clinics that can provide free pregnancy tests and ultrasound scans to confirm your pregnancy and give you the crucial details to find what options are available.

We can also guide you to local programs and resources that can help both you and your family as you navigate this decision. 

Through it all, we are here for you, listening and helping you process all the feelings and concerns of an unplanned pregnancy. 

Schedule an appointment today, or text or call us at 970.481.4787 and start getting the help and answers you need.



I’m Afraid of How My Partner Will React to My Unplanned Pregnancy

If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy it’s not unusual to feel overwhelmed with all the unknowns and questions you have. One of those unknowns is being afraid of how your partner will react to the news that you are pregnant.

You may be worried they will panic and be angry at you and the situation. The first thing to remember is that your personal safety is the most important thing. If you are ever in a situation where you feel like you are in physical danger then call 911 right away and attempt to get to a safe place.

It’s also important to remember you have the legal protection to make decisions for the health of your body, and no one else–not even your partner–has the right to force you into a decision about what option is best for handling your unplanned pregnancy

Get the Facts

When you tell your partner you are pregnant they will likely feel overwhelmed with the same concerns and fears you felt when you first discovered you were pregnant. 

At-home pregnancy tests can sometimes give a false positive, and some pregnancies will end in miscarriage. Confirming your pregnancy with a medical-grade pregnancy test and an ultrasound scan can help rule out these types of issues.

Get the Help You Need

Visiting a local healthcare provider will be an important step in getting the facts and details you need in preparation for talking with your partner, but it can be hard to know where to start or who to call.

That’s where A Friend for You can help. Our team is made up of women who know the fear and confusion of an unplanned pregnancy and are prepared to give you the help you need.

We can connect you with health providers in the community–including local clinics that provide free pregnancy test confirmation and free ultrasound scans–to help give you the info you need about your pregnancy. 

Our team can also guide you to local programs and resources that can assist both you and your partner as you navigate this decision. Through it all we are here for you, being a listening ear and helping you process all the feelings and concerns of an unplanned pregnancy.  

Contact us todaytext or call us at 970.481.4787 and start getting the help and answers you need.



How Will Pregnancy Affect Me Mentally?

If you have recently found out that you are pregnant, or think you might be pregnant, you may be wondering what impact it might have on your mental health.

What is Mental Health?

You’ve probably heard the term mental health used quite a bit recently, but do you know what it means? 

The World Health Organization defines mental health as a state of well-being in which an individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and is able to make a contribution to his or her community. 

Put another way, your mental health has a big impact on your life–from your physical health to the decisions you make.

Mental Health During Pregnancy

As your body changes during pregnancy you might also see changes to your emotions and mental health. The good news is what you experience will likely be very typical. 

In fact, according to the Mayo Clinic, it’s normal to feel delighted, anxious, exhilarated, and exhausted–sometimes all at once. It’s also not unusual to experience depression during your pregnancy. This is due to both your body changing and producing hormones, as well as your mind adjusting to a new reality. 

But if you are facing an unplanned pregnancy these feelings can sometimes feel even more overwhelming, as you try to consider your options for your future and your health. 

Mental Health and Abortion

If you’re considering an abortion you have probably already seen and are familiar with the potential risk and side effects to your physical health. But did you know that research is now finding a link between abortion and mental health risks?

Psychotherapist Vincent Rue was one of the first medical experts to conduct a study that explored the negative mental health impact of abortion on women. The study found that women who have had an abortion experience increased feelings of guilt, shame, and regret. Additionally, the study found that women who had abortions were at a higher risk of developing depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders.

Another study connecting abortion and negative mental health impacts was done by David Fergusson, a renowned researcher who has conducted extensive research on the negative impact of abortion on women’s mental health. His research found that women who have had abortions are at a higher risk of developing depression and anxiety, and that these mental health problems often persist for years after the abortion. Additionally, Fergusson’s research showed that women who have had abortions are also at a higher risk of developing substance abuse problems, such as alcoholism and drug addiction.

We Care About You. 

If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy, the staff at A Friend For You is here for you. Our team is made up of women who know the fear and confusion of an unplanned pregnancy and are prepared to give you the help you need–from providing important information for you to being a listening ear. We also can connect you with resources in the community, from free pregnancy testing to free ultrasound scans, all the things that can empower you to make the best decision for your future and your health. 

It’s your health and future, so you deserve to get the information and support you need. 

Contact us today 


What Do I Need to Know if I am Pregnant in College?

If you are a college student and have gotten a positive result from an at-home pregnancy test, or even think that you may be pregnant, you may be wondering what happens next. You may be overwhelmed and fearful about what your future holds–can you still attend college while you are pregnant, and is abortion your only option? You may not be near any family or friend support while at college also.  The good news is you’re not alone: there are answers to your questions and people who want to help you.  

Is Abortion My Only Option?

Abortion is one of the options you have when facing an unplanned pregnancy, but it’s not the only option. First, it’s possible to continue your college education while you are pregnant, and not only is it possible but you have legal rights as a pregnant student.  

Title IX, is a law that protects pregnant and parenting students from discrimination, whether they are in high school or college. Also, your college, and many others in your community, are committed to seeing young women succeed, and even have programs to help you reach your goals.

What Are My Options?

The first step in the process is to confirm that you are pregnant. You may have already taken an at-home pregnancy test, but those can sometimes provide inaccurate results, especially if they are not used in the proper way. You can contact us for referrals to medical clinics in your area that will provide free, medical-grade pregnancy tests for you.

Some of these clinics will also provide a follow-up ultrasound at no cost to you. This ultrasound can provide key facts for you, like the age of your pregnancy, if it is viable, as well as the location of your pregnancy.

All of these details are an important part of making the best decision for your health.

Where Do I Start?

Finding the resources you need to confirm your pregnancy and get the answers you need can feel overwhelming. But the staff at A Friend For You is here to help. Our team is made up of women who know the stress and confusion of an unplanned pregnancy and are prepared to give you the help you need–on your terms. By being a listening ear, connecting you to resources and medical services in the community, we will empower you to make the best decision for your health and future.

Remember, no one should pressure you to make a decision about your pregnancy before you are ready, and you won’t jeopardize your education by being pregnant. Not only do you have legal protections against any discrimination, but there are also many programs and resources in your community to help you as a college student facing an unplanned pregnancy.  

Contact us today to start getting the answers you deserve about your pregnancy, your health, and your future.


What Are Early Pregnancy Symptoms?

Think you might be pregnant? At-home pregnancy tests are very accurate, but only when taken the day after your missed period. While waiting on your period, here are some symptoms of early pregnancy to be on the lookout for. 

What To Watch For

Every woman’s body will react differently to a pregnancy. Some women report very few symptoms, while others are extremely sick for months. Having your radar up for those early pregnancy signs will simply lead you to take a pregnancy test to confirm or dispel your inklings. 

Tender Breasts

Tender or swollen breasts is one of the first physical signs of early pregnancy. Not every woman will experience tender breasts, but if your bra is feeling a bit uncomfortable these days, you may want to take notice. 

Frequent Urination

Another early symptom of pregnancy is increased urination. When a woman conceives, her body begins producing a lot more blood than usual which pushes extra fluid into the kidneys. 

Nausea Without Vomiting

One of the most stereotypical signs of pregnancy is vomiting. We’ve all seen movies where expectant moms smells something unpleasant , and it sends them running to the bathroom. While vomiting itself isn’t common in early pregnancy, nausea is. If you’ve found yourself sick to your stomach more frequently, you may be pregnant. 

Plan Ahead

If pregnancy isn’t something you planned on, waiting to get your period can be nerve-racking.  Know that you have time to make any decisions about your future and pregnancy.

Taking The Right Next Steps

The heartbeat of A Friend For You is to provide genuine friendship, tangible services and connections to the community for anyone who is pregnant.

If, after all, you do find yourself pregnant, A Friend For You is here to support you. You don’t have to take this journey alone. Text our office anytime at (970) 481-4787, and we will get back to you as soon as possible.  If you choose to say yes to our support, you’ll receive a welcome gift just for joining.

We believe in your future. 


How to Navigate the Holidays with an Unexpected Pregnancy

The holidays always hold that special element of wonder. But discovering you’re unexpectedly pregnant this holiday season may not be the surprise you were hoping for. 

If you’re feeling overwhelmed at the thought of navigating the holidays in the midst of a pregnancy crisis, take a look at these simple tips on how to enjoy this season for all it has to offer.

Manage Expectations

The holidays are typically filled with lots of gatherings. Pregnancy can take a massive toll on your body and may leave you feeling extra tired,  physically and emotionally.

Managing your and your family’s expectations is key. It’s okay to decline an invitation if you’re exhausted and need to rest. Setting boundaries can ward off feelings of resentment that may arise from overscheduling this holiday season.

This season will be different, but it can still be wonderful! 

Have A Game Plan

In the early stages of pregnancy, your body is still adjusting to all the hormonal changes necessary to support a pregnancy. This may cause you to feel queasy, bloated, and irritable. Close friends and family may notice differences in your appearance, appetite, or attitude and begin to ask questions. 

If you have shared your pregnancy news, they may even ask personal questions about your plans for the pregnancy or who the father is. 

Planning ahead for these kinds of questions can bring a sense of calm and confidence. Think of the different things your friends and family may ask, and have your answers ready. Is the food at the party making you queasy?  It’s okay to say you aren’t really hungry at the moment.

Remember, you never have to share anything that you don’t want to. You have a right to privacy just like anyone else does. Protect that when needed. 

Finding Your Inner Circle

Having people in your corner to support you is the best way to find joy this holiday season.

At A Friend For You, the process begins by pairing you with one of our trusted volunteers who will walk with you during this season of pregnancy. She will be a friend you can count on to grab a meal with, to share frustrations or questions with, and to be there for you when you need it most. 

To begin the process, simply call or text (970) 481-4787, or you can also find us on social media. You don’t have to navigate this holiday season alone. Find a friend for you, here


10 Things to Do in Your First Trimester

Whether this pregnancy was planned or is unplanned, there are certain things you should know. When you first find out you’re pregnant, it’s easy to get overwhelmed.   Know that A Friend for You is here to offer friendship, support during your pregnancy, practical help, community resources, and even some gifts to encourage you along the way.  If you need assistance, keep reading for more information on how A Friend 4 You can support you!

Tips to Navigate Your First Trimester:

1. Investigate health insurance.

You’ll need to know what your health insurance plan covers regarding prenatal care, delivery costs, and care for your baby. By calling your health insurance company and asking for the benefits department, you’ll be able to know your coverage.  If you don’t have insurance, you may qualify for Medicaid to help with anticipated expenses

2. Find an OBGYN or Mid-wife.

If you have an insurance provider, you can check out their preferred providers.

3. Schedule a prenatal appointment.

Your first prenatal appointment usually occurs in the second month, between six and eight weeks of pregnancy. Some healthcare providers won’t see you until you’re at least eight weeks pregnant. However, you’ll want to get on their calendar well before eight weeks. 

Before your appointment, make a note of the first day of your last period. This will help your provider. Also, write down any questions you might have for your provider.

4. Take your prenatal vitamin.

If you haven’t started taking a prenatal vitamin yet, now’s the time to start. It’s a good idea to get enough folic acid while trying to conceive and during your first trimester. This will help your baby grow healthy and strong.

5. Consult your provider about medications you’re taking.

There are several drugs – even some over-the-counter ones – that aren’t safe during pregnancy. However, talk with your provider before you stop taking your medications. In addition, you should ask your provider what medications, supplements, and vitamins are safe to take.

6. Be aware of certain activities which could be harmful.

Some activities, jobs, and hobbies can be dangerous to you and your developing baby. For example, certain cleaning products, pesticides, solvents, and lead in drinking water from old pipes should be avoided.

If you’re routinely exposed to chemicals, heavy metals (like lead or mercury), certain biologic agents, or radiation – which are common at some research and medical jobs – you’ll need to make changes as quickly as possible.

7. Stock your kitchen with healthy stuff.

Stock your pantry, fridge, and freezer with pregnancy-friendly foods. In addition to this, you should cut out cigarettes, cigars, alcohol and limit your caffeine to less than 200 mg per day (that’s about one 11-ounce cup of coffee).

8. Get relief from morning sickness.

Unfortunately, “morning sickness” isn’t limited to mornings. Nearly 75% of pregnant women experience morning sickness during the first trimester. For mild cases, try eating small, frequent meals and snacks and sticking to bland, room-temperature foods. Ginger and acupressure bands have also worked for some women. If these things don’t help, talk with your provider about taking vitamin B6 or an anti-nausea medication.

9. Get enough sleep

With early pregnancy, exhaustion is more prominent than you think. So getting more rest by turning in early – even if it makes you feel like a grandma— will help tremendously.

10. Treat yourself! 

Remember being pregnant is challenging. Find something to do to treat yourself. Perhaps it’s watching an episode of your favorite show, or going to your favorite store, taking a walk around your local park for some fresh air.  It doesn’t have to cost much or anything, just something that fills you.  A lot of change happens to your body during pregnancy, so you need to give yourself some grace.  

Know that A Friend for You can help with anything on this list.  For support, resources, and connection during this challenging season, why not reach out to us?  Contact us! We are happy to help in any way we can!


Second Trimester To-Do List

Welcome! You’ve made it to the second trimester! This means less morning sickness and more fun! Most women say they feel their best in the second trimester. So, what should you do with your newfound energy? We’ll tell you!

#1 — Shop!
You read that right! Your baby bump is starting to show, and you’ll need to find some comfortable (and cute) maternity clothes. Shopping online can be an easy way to find affordable maternity clothing.  Remember, shopping doesn’t have to cost a penny. Do you have a friend who has recently had a baby?  Borrowing clothes can be an easy way to fill up your wardrobe.  AFriend4U is just a phone call away and can suggest some sources for gently used maternity clothes!

# 2 — Stick to or set up an exercise regimen
Getting regular pregnancy exercise is a great way to keep you strong for labor and help you maintain a healthy pregnancy. Don’t forget to drink plenty of water, as well as include safe stretches.

# 3 — Keep a journal
It is sometimes helpful to write down all your thoughts and feelings. Pregnancy can sometimes feel like it will last forever. However, after your baby is born, it often feels like it flew by. Keeping a journal can help your mental health and keep memories that you can look back on.

# 4 — Find a birth class
Birthing classes fill up fast, so you should start your search now. Depending on the type of birthing class you choose, some last a day while others last for weeks. It’s good to know what to expect now before running out of time. You can check your local hospital and community center for these as well.

# 5 — Start looking for childcare
Childcare is expensive. It can take a while to get your child into a good daycare or find a nanny.  So, starting a pros and cons list of daycare centers, nanny care, home daycare, and relative care is essential. If you live in an area where daycare centers are in high demand, make time to go for tours and put your name on waiting, even if you aren’t sure what you’ll do. It’s better to have too many options than none at all.

# 6 — Get caught up on your dental needs
Sounds strange, right? No one likes going to the dentist, but getting caught up on your dental needs is important to do now. Once the baby comes, it will be harder to get to the dentist. In addition to this, delaying your cleaning and cavity fillings can lead to infection, which won’t be healthy for you or your baby. Nevertheless, going to the dentist is safe for pregnant women, so go ahead and make the appointment.

# 7 — Moisturize your belly
Your body and belly are going through a lot of changes. Putting creams and oils will help reduce the itchiness. Check out the best list of oils and creams for pregnant bellies!

# 8 — Sleep on your side
Many caregivers advise sleeping on your side instead of your back. Getting extra pillows to place between your legs, under your hip, or behind your back helps make it more comfortable. Researching the best sleeping positions might be helpful too.

# 9 — Start doing Kegels
Kegel exercises can help prevent urine leaks during and after pregnancy, keep hemorrhoids away, and improve the muscle tone of your vagina.

#10 — Plan your maternity leave
Make sure to talk with your human resources department or your supervisor now. Learn what benefits you may be eligible for, and make sure to fill out all the necessary paperwork now.

# 11 — Avoid high-risk activities
As your belly grows, you will notice it affects your balance, and your ligaments are also being stretched, making it easier for you to get hurt. Avoid activities that have a risk of falling, or that may cause trauma to your abdomen.

# 12 — Work on your home improvement to-do list.
Often when a pregnant woman is getting closer to labor, she goes through something called “nesting.” This is when you prepare the home for your baby. In addition to setting up the nursery, you may want to organize your closets, declutter, and take inventory of what you’d like to fix around the house. If you can’t ask your partner or he’s not that handy, a family member or friend may be able to help you. Remember, you don’t want to expose yourself to chemicals, move heavy furniture, or climb ladders. Additionally, you’ll want to childproof your living space as well.

# 13 — If you have older children, prepare them for the baby’s arrival
A new baby brings a lot of changes into a home. It’s important to tell and retell your older child what to expect and how to care for their new sibling.  Starting these conversations now will help them prepare for your newest family member. In addition to this, make sure you have a babysitter on call when you go into labor.

With each trimester, the days seem long, but the trimesters seem short. So, try to enjoy this trimester while you prepare for the next one. You’re getting closer, and remember A Friend4U is here to offer support to you at any stage. You can call or text us at 970-704-5236. Or you can reach out to us through our contact form.

We look forward to serving you!


You’re almost there! Third Trimester To-Do List

If you’ve been pregnant for 28 weeks, you’ve just entered your third trimester! Welcome!

Many women start nesting and preparing for their newborns when they enter their third trimester. But what should you do to prepare for the upcoming weeks? We are glad you asked. Here is your third-trimester to-do list:

Weeks 28-32:

1. Monitor your baby’s kicks. 

After 28 weeks, your baby will have a rhythm for their kicks. Counting kicks is essential because when you monitor your baby’s movement, you can notify your OB if something changes. If something changes, it could be a sign of problems in the pregnancy.

2. Baby proof your house

There is a lot in your home that you may not even be aware of that is unsafe for a baby. Check this article out to help you baby-proof your home.

3. Create a birth plan with your OB.

“Plan for what it is difficult while it is easy, do what is great while it is small.” — Sun Tzu.  Thinking about your concerns and desires well before getting to the hospital can help you have a better birthing experience.

4. Get more comfortable clothes. 

When your body aches and you’re not sleeping well, having comfortable clothes can help. As Hayley Hasselhoff says, “Find what makes you feel comfortable. The confidence you wear your clothes in is what’s really going to shine.”  And it doesn’t have to break the bank!  There are many local resources that offer gently used clothing if you need more comfortable clothes.

5. If you haven’t already taken a child-birthing class, we highly recommend you do that.
Additionally, a breastfeeding class can be helpful too if you are choosing to feed your baby that way. Click here for online courses.

6. Start meal planning for when you get out of the hospital.
You can cook ahead and freeze your meals, or you can get some microwaveable meals.

Weeks 32-36

1. Go over your items and check to see if there are still baby items you’ll need. We have contact information for local resources that offer gently used baby items.  Your Volunteer Friend can get you that information.

2. Create a first aid kit with the following items:
A baby thermometer, tweezers, antibiotic ointment, adhesive bandages, and petroleum jelly. You can always call us for advice for any of these to-dos! We know this is a lot of information.

3. Make sure you have a safe place for the baby to sleep.
If you do not have a nursery or a crib; a bassinet is a good option.

4. Pack your hospital bag

Pack clothes for 3-5 days if you are going to have a C-section. Just imagine you’re going on a trip. What would you take? What would you want with you? For example, do you apply a lot of lip balm, then bring your lip balm. Do you curl or straighten your hair? Bring what products you use. Additionally, bring a sweater (it can get cold in the hospital). Bring nonperishable snacks. If you plan to nurse, make sure you have nursing bras and nursing pads. Normally the hospital takes great care of you – anything you forget, they should be able to assist you with.

5. Make sure to already have your car seat safely out into your car.

You can click here to find a child safety certified technician to help you secure your baby’s car seat.

6. Ask your OB about the routine newborn screening tests at the hospital.
Make sure to discuss any additional tests you’d like to run. In conjunction with your visit, make sure you have your Group B strep test (week 35-37) done.

Pregnancy Checklist for Weeks 36 Through Delivery

1. Wash baby’s clothes with newborn laundry detergent

2. Go to your doctor’s visits. Doctor visits will be weekly until delivery.

Recap: Just remember, you know what’s best for your baby! You’re capable and strong enough to be a mom. The most important thing is to have a safe place for your baby to sleep, play, and be fed.  Make sure you’re taking care of yourself as well. You need to be healthy for your baby. You’ve got this!

We are here to help you in any way we can. If you’re challenged to find anything on this checklist, just contact us and we’ll be happy to point you to some affordable and free resources. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, contact us by calling or texting: 970-355-3502, or email us at: