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Dongxue and Morgan Talk About Their Friendship

Dongxue’s Story

Q. Dongxue, why did you feel the need to reach out to A Friend for You?

A: I was in a hard time. I am from another country, all my friends were from university, however, I am the only few left in Fort Collins. I am not good at social, not good at talking to strangers, which makes it hard to make friends outside of school. After I got married, and got pregnant, few friends thought it was dangerous for me to do lots of activities, so they stopped reaching out to me. I felt super isolated, and lonely, also because my husband was not at home or around most of the time. I went to a program called Life Choices, and they recommended A Friend for You to me, so I called.

Q. Who was your Volunteer Friend, and how did your relationship with her develop/grow?

A. Morgan is my friend. She is super nice and listens to me. I really appreciate the time we spend together. Especially when I was pregnant, I was the only one at home, with nobody to talk with, all I did was go to appointments. I was really looking forward to meeting her and talking about what happening, and just talk. It was super nice that she came to my baby shower, and we had a wonderful time. After baby is here, she brought me gifts from the program, which are very helpful. We keep connected even after delivery, and I really appreciate what she is doing, and she is willing to spend time with me.

Q. How did a friendship with Morgan benefit you?

A: For me, I feel there is always someone there I can talk with, whenever, whatever. I feel less lonely, and also, I know if there is anything I need or any information I am looking for, there is someone there for me to ask questions instead wondering myself. I am happy that in a foreign country, I am having one more friend.

Q. Did Morgan connect you with any other opportunities in the community?

A: She registered for me to a community baby shower, and that was the best! I got so many samples, and gifts, and so much information from different programs, some information was really important, but I had heard it before, and best wishes from all different people. I also won the bed for the baby, which saved me tons of money.

Q. What kinds of things have you and Morgan done together?

A: We normally met at coffee shop to talk and enjoy the relaxed environment. Sometimes, we met for lunch, and she recommended some good places to eat.

Q. How often do you get together?

A: Mostly once a week, but after baby is here, she gave me time to figure out my own pace and schedule, so we are meeting once a week, or once in two weeks.

Q. How did calling A Friend for You benefit you?

A: It gave me the courage to make the call to meet new people. People are super nice in the program, makes me feel less nervous around strangers. It gave me more information for what I need and access to some events that I didn’t know about.

Q. Would you say to another pregnant woman considering calling A Friend for You?

A: Yes, definitely would.

“For me, I feel there is always someone there I can talk with.”

Morgan’s Story

Q. Morgan, how long have you been a Volunteer Friend involved with A Friend for You?

A: I started with A Friend for You in October of 2017.

Q. What about the ministry drew you to get involved?

A: The opportunity to help women when they need support and encouragement from a trusted friend.

Q. How many women have you “friended?”

A: One

Q. Describe your experience as a Volunteer Friend. What things did you and your Pregnant Friend do together?

A. We meet for lunch or coffee and catch up. It’s been wonderful to build a relationship and be available to my friend.

Q. What kind of growth have you seen in yourself since becoming a Volunteer Friend?

A: I have grown in the area of empathy. Learning someone’s story helps to increase my personal understanding and compassion for the different challenges that people face.

Q. What kind of growth have you seen in your Pregnant Friend or Dongxue?

A: She is doing amazing and has adjusted to motherhood so well. I am very proud of her. 🙂

Q. What has been the most difficult aspect of being a Volunteer Friend?

Q. What would you say to someone who is interested in volunteering with A Friend for You?

A: It’s a beautiful ministry and will bless you in many ways.

Q. Do you believe that A Friend for You is a worthwhile organization? If so, why?

A: Yes, the organization is so intentional and does a fabulous job of supporting women in their individual walks.

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Dawna and Helen Talk About Their Friendship

Dawna’s Story

Q. How did you hear A Friend for You?

A. Initially I had seen a card hanging at my doctor’s office. Family medicine. However Ashley one of the nurses at the human resource office is the one that pushed me with the suggestion.

Q. Why did you feel the need to reach out to A Friend for You?

A. Because there was so much going on in my life on top of my extremely high-risk pregnancy. As well as deciding to leave the father due to DV [domestic violence]. I was taking on caring for my sister’s children who have been taken away from her at the time 15 and 13 both boys. I didn’t have much support in my life whether that was resources or just someone to talk to, I never had to ask for help before

“Helen’s very resourceful as well as caring, kind, genuine all-around good person. I couldn’t imagine having a better friend chosen for me.”

Q. Who is your Volunteer Friend, and how did your relationship with your friend develop?

A. Helen McKinney… Very nice woman we initially met at a coffee shop and she wanted to know all about me in any way. I could tell she just wanted to help in any way she even if it was in the middle of the night just to talk.

Q. Did A Friend for You connect you with any other opportunities in the community?

A. Helen was always trying to look for connections or what she could do to help me in any way that I may have had an issue or bump in the road whether that was a rash on my skin or something bigger like I had an issue with my car so she even the foot work for me which was a bonus. She’s just awesome.

Q. What kinds of things have you and Helen done in spending time together?

A. We mainly did little things so that we could talk or connect in ways probably a lot of coffee and tea sessions as well as brunch. She attended my baby shower, we even went to a party together a gathering during Christmas time she took me.

Q. How often would you get together?

A. Helen keeps herself busy but insisted that we would get together at least once a week for no less than an hour. If I wanted more or needed more of course I would let her know and there’s a few times we met more or she would just pop in to check on me.

Q. How old is your baby now?

A. Landyn is about to turn 9 months on the 14th of August. I believe we initially met when I was roughly 6 months pregnant.

Q. What did you think about your Care for You gifts…did they help you? (freezer meals and gift package)

A. I thought they were amazing absolutely helpful in more ways than I could even imagine.

Q. Would you recommend A Friend for You to another woman, and if so, what would you tell her?

A. Absolutely I would recommend A Friend for You. I don’t think that it’s some women’s cup of tea but especially if it was a stranger by all means anybody just looking for somebody to talk to you or anything I think it’s very awesome what you do as well as the women that volunteer it fills my heart to know there’s things in place like this to help others.

Q. What would you like to share about your Friend, Helen?

A. Very non-judgmental but sure does like to share her opinion as well especially if it pertains to your health or your babies. Helen’s very resourceful as well as caring, kind, genuine all-around good person. I couldn’t imagine having a better friend chosen for me.

Q. How are you and your family doing today?

A. My son and I are very good! My nephews have since returned home with their mother. Landyn is very advanced he can already walk, pretty much has been since he was 8 months.

Helen’s Story

Q. How long have you been involved with A Friend for You (A Friend for You)?

A. I’ve been involved with A Friend for You for a year now.

Q. What about A Friend for You drew you to get involved?

A. My husband and I had been volunteers with the pregnancy center in Kona, Hawaii when we were missionaries there and while there God really impressed upon our hearts about how important it is to offer alternatives to girls and women who find themselves unexpectedly pregnant. When I learned about A Friend for You, I could see myself coming alongside such women and helping them in practical ways, not just for the few minutes that they’re in a pregnancy center but for several months or perhaps years.

Q. How many women have you “friended”?

A. I have had two pregnant friends so far.

Q. What kind of growth have you seen in yourself since becoming a Volunteer Friend?

A. Since becoming a Volunteer friend, I have discovered what it’s like for people who grow up without proper parental protection and guidance. It has really opened my eyes to see just how patterns get repeated generation after generation if no one steps up to intervene or offer friendship.

Q. What kind of growth have you seen in Dawna?

A. In Dawna I have seen tremendous growth. From the beginning she did not want to follow in the steps of her mother and sisters. We both knew she would make a wonderful mother and indeed she has done marvelously. I’m so proud of her. She had many obstacles to overcome and still has, but she seems to set healthy priorities and tackle things one day at a time.

“We both knew she would make a wonderful mother and indeed she has done marvelously. I’m so proud of her.”

Q. Do you still keep in touch with Dawna?

A. Yes, we still keep in touch, although not as often as in the beginning.

Q. Tell me about your most rewarding experience with A Friend for You.

A. My most rewarding experience so far with A Friend for You was during our second or third visit together when Dawna broke down and cried a little. Her ex-boyfriend had been abusive to her and became much more so when Dawna became pregnant. She realized just then that, had she not become pregnant, she may well still have been with him and taking the abuse. So in a very real way, we both realized that this pregnancy not only wasn’t a mistake but it was a blessing and may very well have saved her from a life that she now realized she doesn’t deserve. I could see her self-worth growing before my eyes and it has continued to grow as she raises Landyn and gets ready to be back in the workforce.

Q. What has been the most difficult aspect of being a Volunteer Friend?

A. The most difficult aspect of being a Volunteer Friend is when a pregnant friend only continues to see herself as a victim and finds flaws in any suggestions for help that are given. Happily, this wasn’t the case with Dawna, however.

Q. What would you say to someone who is interested in volunteering with A Friend for You?

A. To someone who is interested in volunteering with A Friend for You, I would say that it’s much like becoming a parent in that you’ll find it difficult at times but there’s little else that is so rewarding. And, if the mentoring part seems to be too challenging, then there are many other ways in which she could help.

Q. Do you believe that A Friend for You is a worthwhile organization? If so, why?

A. I definitely believe that A Friend for You is a worthwhile organization because there just aren’t any organizations like it, that I know of. It’s amazing to see how many pregnant women that are out there who would say they don’t really have any decent friends to walk with them through their pregnancy and beyond. The training and guidelines set in place for mentors are very well-thought out and wise.

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Madison and Morgan Talk About Their Friendship

Madison’s Story

Q. How did you hear about A Friend for You?

A. The pregnancy center in Loveland told me about it! It honestly took me a little while, and a lot of courage to finally call, but I’m glad I did!

Q. What about A Friend for You sounded interesting that you wanted to join?

A. Accepting the fact I was going to be a single mom was hard, and then when a lot of friends walked away from me, I was starting to get really depressed having no one to talk to, so I thought it would be a good idea for me to have someone that was going to truly be in my corner.

Q. Who was your Volunteer Friend, and how did your relationship with your friend develop?

A. Morgan!! It developed really well! It was natural, and I absolutely loved Morgan’s sassy personality, and her listening ear was just what I needed. Plus, she has incredible advice and ideas.

“Accepting the fact I was going to be a single mom was hard, and then when a lot of friends walked away from me, I was starting to get really depressed having no one to talk to, so I thought it would be a good idea for me to have someone that was going to truly be in my corner. “ Madison, Client

Q. Did Morgan connect you with any other resources/opportunities in the community?

A. Yes! She helped me get in touch with WIC for their assistance.

Q. What kinds of things have you and Morgan done together and how often do you meet?

A. We’ve gone on walks and gotten coffee! We would meet every couple weeks, or now it’s about once a month since I’m working so much.

Q. What would you like to share about Morgan?

A. Morgan is an absolutely gem. She is so sweet, caring, has wonderful advice, super easy to talk to, and she has always made me feel comfortable and that I truly have a friend in her. Her support is a complete blessing.

Q. This has been an interesting time being pregnant during COVID. How has having Morgan in your life helped you during this challenging time?

A. She helped make it not such a lonely time. She made me feel more comfortable in my own skin.

Q. Would you recommend A Friend for You to another woman, and if so, what would you tell her?

A. YES!! That it’s an incredible program, and I am SO thankful for the people behind it.

Q. Is there anything else you would like to share? (this can be about A Friend for You or Morgan)

A. I just want to say thank you. Thank you for bringing Morgan into my life. Thank you for being my breath of fresh air, my hope in the dark… I can’t even begin to describe how thankful I am to have found this program and been introduced to Morgan!

Morgan’s Story

Q. How long have you been involved with A Friend for You?

A. I’ve been involved for three years

Q. What about the A Friend for You drew you to get involved?

A. The mission of the organization and the heart they have for moms.

Q. How many women have you “friended?”

A. Two

[Being a Volunteer Friend is] meeting people where they are and loving them well. I believe in showing up and loving well, and A Friend for You provides this and more.”

Morgan, Volunteer Friend

Q. What things have you and Madison done together?

A. We generally meet up for coffee and/or a walk.

Q. What would you like to share about Madison?

A. Madison is an incredible person. She is wise beyond her years and she is going to go far in life. I admire her dedication as a mother and her desire to make the most of her life. I couldn’t be more proud of her and how she is navigating life.

Q. What kind of growth have you seen in Madison?

A. Madison is growing as a mom and learning how to juggle all the things! She is very teachable and wants to be a devoted mom (which she is). She is also growing as a leader and business owner.

Q. Do you still keep in touch with Madison?

A. Yes! I’m thankful to call her a friend.

Q. What do you enjoy about being a Volunteer Friend?

A. The ability to connect and form relationships

Q. Do you believe that A Friend for You is a worthwhile organization? If so, why?

Q. Do you believe that A Friend for You is a worthwhile organization? If so, why?

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Kristina and Debbie Talk About Their Friendship

Katrina’s Story

Q. How did you hear about A Friend for You?

A. I heard about A Friend for You at a local maternity resource fair.

Q. What about A Friend for You sounded interesting that you wanted to join?

A. All of it! Having someone there for you the entire pregnancy and after was one of the best reasons personally because I feel like when you’re pregnant, you’re more alone than ever cause you’re going through such a crazy process.

Q. Who was your Volunteer Friend, and how did your relationship with your friend develop? What would you like to share about her?

A. My first friend Jessica, our friendship developed over Starbucks meetups and I loved our morning conversations! We have a lot in common and I really look up to her as a role model! I also suffer with a few mental health issues and I really loved her advice and positive outlook and that helped me get through this stressful pregnancy.

Q. Since Jessica moved out of state during your pregnancy, you were immediately matched with Debbie. How did this transition of a new friendship go?

A. It went great! Jessica talked to me about the whole situation first and asked me how I felt switching to Debbie. We planned meeting up all together a few times before Jessica left and I really loved that transition.

Q. Did Debbie or Jessica connect you with any other resources/opportunities in the community?

A. Yes both of them have helped me with quite a few resources around my town that really helped prepare me for this baby, with COVID going on though some resources that I needed before weren’t a need anymore. Will hopefully be a need again as time goes on though!

Q. What kinds of things do you and Debbie do together and how often do you meet?

A. We have been meeting at the park or my patio! Or talking over the phone! She is the sweetest and always brings me a drink or a little goodie and I just love every time we connect!

Q. What would you like to share about Debbie?

A. She is such a wonderful woman! She has so much wisdom and passion about things she knows about and loves! I love talking to her, I could talk to her for hours. She is such a great friend! We get along great and she is so caring for me and my boys!

Q. This has been an interesting time being pregnant during COVID. How has having a friend during this time helped you?

A. This year has been the worst but having a friend has been the BEST decision. Being stuck in the house all alone with no one to meet up or talk to has been awful but having Jessica and Debbie there for me always has been such a blessing.

Q. Would you recommend A Friend for You to another woman, and if so, what would you tell her?

A. YES! 100% YES! Being pregnant and being pregnant during COVID-19 is such a stressful time and you shouldn’t go through it alone!

Q. Is there anything else you would like to share?

A. A Friend for You is a great program/resource they give so much support! Lorraine [A Friend for You Executive Director] is amazing too and has even sent my other two boys’ gifts they can enjoy! Everyone cares about you and I love that!

“Having someone there for you the entire pregnancy and after was one of the best reasons personally because I feel like when you’re pregnant, you’re more alone than ever cause you’re going through such a crazy process.”

Debbie’s Story

Q. How long have you been involved with A Friend for You?

A. I have been involved in different capacities for about 8 years.

Q. What about the A Friend for You drew you to get involved?

A. I was looking for a nonprofit outlet for my desire to help women and children.

“Being a friend is the most enjoyable part of my volunteer work because of the opportunity to help in a very special time in a woman’s life.“

Q. How many women have you “friended?”

A. I did not actually start out as a volunteer friend due to my home/work commitments but after I retired, I wanted to become more involved with direct contact with the women we were serving. My relationship with Kristina is my third client I have personally been involved with. My primary volunteering opportunity is to help with all the matched relationships as a kind of liaison between our volunteers and our clients. It involves some tracking of information and help with community resources.

Q. What things have you and Kristina done together?

A. Kristina and I were matched after COVID started so it might look a little different than I would like. We would meet at local parks mostly so that her 2 boys could play while we talked and got to know each other. We would take the boys to the splash park, baseball camps, and playgrounds.

Q. What would you like to share about Kristina?

A. I’m so impressed with her as a loving, kind mother of her two and now three boys. She is very resourceful and is a good friend to me and the others in her life.

Q. What kind of growth have you seen in Kristina?

A. We are all a work in progress and COVID has certainly challenged us all, but I have noticed Kristina tries to keep a positive attitude and has a good grasp on what is most important. She has gone through an unexpected pregnancy during a very tough time in our world history. She has actively taken on homeschooling her two boys at the end of a high-risk pregnancy with its health issues.

Q. Do you still keep in touch with Kristina?

A. Yes, I hope so…. she has just had her third baby and has her hands full, but we all need friends.

Q. You help A Friend for You in many ways in addition to being a Volunteer Friend to a pregnant woman. What do you specifically enjoy about being a Friend?

A. Being a friend is the most enjoyable part of my volunteer work because of the opportunity to help in a very special time in a woman’s life.

Q. Please share about your most rewarding experience with A Friend for You.

A. Seeing the connection of two women and how they inspire and make positive changes.

Q. What would you say to someone who is interested in volunteering with A Friend for You?

A. If you value friendship and new life and have a little margin within your schedule it is a worthwhile volunteer opportunity that will enrich your own life.

Q. Do you believe that A Friend for You is a worthwhile organization? If so, why?

A. Absolutely…. we need each other!!

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Julia and Bonnie Talk About Their Friendship

Julia’s Story

Q. How did you hear A Friend for You?

A. Shortly after finding out I was pregnant; I began looking for resources and help to get me through this unexpected journey. I did a Google search online for pregnancy resources in Colorado and quickly came upon A Friend for You.

Q. Why did you feel the need to reach out to A Friend for You?

A: I am a planner. I always have been. Finding out that I was pregnant threw a huge wrench into my career plans and I was confident I wouldn’t be ready to handle. I knew I wanted to have a child someday but that was in my five-year plan, not the immediate future. I knew that in order to make this pregnancy work, I needed help.

Q. Who is your Volunteer Friend, and how did your relationship with your friend develop?

A. I was paired up with Bonnie and heard from her almost immediately (within an hour of being matched.) Our brief initial phone conversation put me at ease, and I knew that I had one person to confide in and who would help me through this journey. It was an instant connection. Talking to Bonnie felt like talking to a friend I had known for years.

Q. Did A Friend for You connect you with any other opportunities in the community?

A. Yes, I was able to find resources to get clothing and diapers for our little man as well as a car seat and a pack and play. There are also so many other resources that A Friend for You has connections to that I did not use but I know they would be extremely valuable to any woman in this situation.

Q. What kinds of things have you and Bonnie done in spending time together?

A. We mostly met for coffee and would sit and talk. Bonnie gave me a copy of the book “What to Expect when You’re Expecting” the first time we met. It was great to have that book from the beginning to help me know what was coming in the near future.

Q. How often would you get together?

A. We tried to meet up once a week. Both of us have busy schedules so occasionally we’d miss a week, but we would always check in via phone or text.

Q. How old is your baby now?

A. Our little man Jonathan is 4 weeks old now.

Q. What did you think about your Care for You gifts…did they help you?

A. The gift package was extremely thoughtful and generous. There were items in there for my son as well as beauty products to pamper myself. I’ve spent the past several months focused on Jonathan and the past four weeks solely focused on him that it will be nice to pamper myself a little bit. The freezer meals have been invaluable. We still have a couple left because I try to save them for those nights when I have absolutely no energy to prepare food and can easily place one in the oven. The food is delicious, and I can tell it was made with love.

Q. Would you recommend A Friend for You to another woman, and if so, what would you tell her?

A. I would absolutely recommend A Friend for You to any woman who finds out she is pregnant and is completely unprepared for what that means for her future.

Q. What would you like to share about your Friend, Bonnie?

A. Bonnie is such a ray of sunshine. She is the sweetest and friendliest woman I have ever met. She has become like a mother to me and we will continue to stay in touch for a very long time. She is genuinely invested in the work she does with A Friend for You as I’m sure all the volunteers are. I can’t say enough good things about Bonnie or about how much she has helped me over these past several months. I love her so much!

Q. How are you and your family doing today?

A. We are adjusting but finally settling into a routine right now. I’m still at home with Jonathan and have not gone back to work yet. I couldn’t imagine loving anything as much as I love my son. It’s amazing how one unexpected event can completely turn your life upside down yet be the best thing that has ever happened to you.

Q. Anything else you would like to share with us?

A. I would just like to encourage other woman who were in my position to not hesitate to reach out for help. We are all in this together and nobody should have to figure this all out on their own. I know that I’m not ready yet to volunteer with A Friend for You but once I get into my new routine with my little guy, I would love to help out and give back to a group who helped me so much.

“… I knew that I had one person to confide in and who would help me through this journey. It was an instant connection. Talking to Bonnie felt like talking to a friend I had known for years.”

Bonnie’s Story

Q. How long have you been involved with A Friend for You

A. I have been helping with A Friend for You for almost two years.

Q. What about A Friend for You drew you to get involved?

A.  A sweet neighbor introduced me to A Friend for You.

Q. How many women have you “friended”?

A. I have friended two beautiful young ladies. 

Q. Describe your experience as a Volunteer Friend. What things did you and Julia do together?

A. Julia and I would try and meet once a week for coffee and talk about how her pregnancy and work was going.  If our schedules didn’t work we would still keep in contact through text or a phone call. 

Q. What kind of growth have you seen in yourself since becoming a Volunteer Friend?

A. Volunteering for A Friend for You has been a blessing to me. I’ve enjoyed getting to know both young ladies to where my heart has grown. I have found myself wanting to make sure both ladies felt loved and supported at all times.  However, my time with Julia and her baby I have developed such love, and admiration for the beautiful mother she has become. 

Q. What kind of growth have you seen in Julia?

A. When I first meet Julia, she was very stressed about her future. She knew she loved her job but wasn’t sure how a baby would be able to fit in her life. As the weeks went by, I saw how strong, brave and excited she was for her new little family.  Despite Julia loving her full-time job, she was able to put together her own wedding and deliver a beautiful healthy baby boy. 

Q. Do you still keep in touch with Julia?

A. Yes, we still keep in touch. Julia and her little family have become family to me and my husband. 

Q. Tell me about your most rewarding experience with A Friend for You.

A. My most rewarding experience has been seeing Julia with her little family and how happy they have become. 

Q. What has been the most difficult aspect of being a Volunteer Friend?

A. Finding the time to meet that works with both our schedules. 

Q. What would you say to someone who is interested in volunteering with A Friend for You?

A. That they will be blessed with the experience of the relationship between the mentor and the friend. 

Q. Do you believe A Friend for You is a worthwhile organization? If so, why?

A. Yes, it gives such hope and ease to women who are going through an unexpected stressful time in their life.

“Volunteering for A Friend for You has been a blessing to me. I’ve enjoyed getting to know both young ladies to where my heart has grown.”

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Jennifer and Marty Talk About Their Friendship

Jennifer’s Story

Q. Why did you feel the need to reach out to A Friend for You?

A. I was working with someone at Summit Stone who recommended A Friend for You. I can be fairly isolated, not a lot friends or my family doesn’t get along sometimes.  Having someone else to talk to gives me an outlet to talk about things like my family.  The friends I have wouldn’t be as understanding of my problems or don’t care for my husband.  Sometimes I pray and pray and don’t get an answer. 

Sometimes you don’t want advice; you just want someone to listen to.  Sometimes you do want someone who understands what you’re going through or at least has enough insight or not be judgmental or treat you as “less than” for going through what you’re going through.

Q. Who is your Volunteer Friend, and how did your relationship with her develop/grow?

A. Marty is my friend who I was matched with through A Friend for You.  I wasn’t sure how it (the friendship) would actually go but when I first met her, she was very kind and listened to me like I needed.  She wasn’t judgmental, and I liked that.  She reached out to me more rather than me to her.  She checked in. I didn’t have repeat myself, she remembered what I told her; she listened to me.

Q. How did a friendship with Marty benefit you?

A. She gives me an outlet to just talk.  She’s always been very kind and helpful in finding resources and when I don’t know what to do.  My therapist isn’t allowed to offer me advice, but Marty can offer advice.  I wish someone like Marty could have given me advice earlier.   Sometimes I don’t want to talk about how I feel but rather hear someone suggest an avenue or find a solution instead of stewing about what I think and feel.  She never forces her opinion.  She says things like, “Would you like to consider…?” in an organic conversation, offering me different ideas.

Q. Did Marty connect you with any other opportunities in the community?

A. She’s suggested and/or taken me to Serve 6.8, Dream Room, Gabriel House and doctor’s appointments.  Sometimes she has driven me when I’ve had transportation issues.  When I was trying to move, she helped me pack things up for me.

Q. What kinds of things have you and Marty done together?

A. We go to coffee.  She’s also taken me out to lunch.  I like introducing her to new places to eat so she can try out different foods.

Q. How often do you get together?

A. About once every week to two weeks, based on both of our schedules.  About every week she checks in by text or phone calls or I check in with her.

Q. How did calling A Friend for You benefit you?

A. I got to meet a really nice woman who I consider a friend now.  I wasn’t so sure how the relationship would be at the beginning, but I consider Marty a friend now.  I don’t get out and make friends easily.  It’s nice to have someone who really cares about me. 

Q. Would you say to another pregnant woman considering calling A Friend for You?

A.  Give it a shot…you don’t have anything to lose.   

Q. What did you think about your Care for You delivery after the birth?

A. The Care for You is really nice because when I got home, Marty brought all the dinners over and I didn’t have to cook for some time.  I especially loved the socks, candle, lip gloss, diaper balm in the gift bag.  I liked that a lot of those fancy things in the gift bag, I wouldn’t normally have the money to buy, so it was great to receive them.

“She gives me an outlet to just talk.  She’s always been very kind and helpful in finding resources and when I don’t know what to do.”

Marty’s Story

Q. Marty, describe your experience as a Volunteer Friend. What things did you and Jennifer do together?

A. We went to lunch several times, talked a lot, went to some of her Dr. visits and went to different resource places to get some baby things before delivery. I was able to spend the night in the hospital and help her with the first night with her baby!!  What fun.  Also rocked her baby when she had to spend a few days in the ICU.  I also helped her pack her house to move.

Q. What kind of growth have you seen in yourself since becoming a Volunteer Friend?

A. I just feel like God has placed me in the position and I’m happy I have the opportunity to help someone in need. I feel like I grow closer to Jesus by serving, we are his hands and feet.   As a bonus I have felt such love and gratitude from not only my friend but the ministry itself.

Q. Marty, describe your experience as a Volunteer Friend. What things did you and Jennifer do together?

A. I just feel like God has placed me in the position and I’m happy I have the opportunity to help someone in need. I feel like I grow closer to Jesus by serving, we are his hands and feet.   As a bonus I have felt such love and gratitude from not only my friend but the ministry itself.

Q. What kind of growth have you seen in your Pregnant Friend?

A. She is very grateful for the help she has received from A Friend 4 U. 

Q. Tell me about your most rewarding experience with AF4U.

A. One of the most rewarding was the most tiring, :-).  Taking care of the baby on her first night, feeding and changing her, was very rewarding.  Babies are truly a gift from God.  Just holding her and praying over her was a blessing.

Q. What has been the most difficult aspect of being a Volunteer Friend?

A. Just seeing the difficulty people go through and not seeing that Jesus is the way. Also, it is difficult to connect when it’s hard to get together with your friend.  

Q. What would you say to someone who is interested in volunteering with AF4U?

A. It has been a very rewarding experience. The organization is so well organized that you will get all the support and help that you need.  

Q. Do you believe that AF4U is a worthwhile organization? If so, why?

A. YES!!!   There are women who don’t have much support in their life and then to be pregnant on top of that is so much to go through without someone who can listen to them.  

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Yaricza and Dasha Talk About Their Friendship

Yaricza‘s Story

Q. How did you hear about A Friend for You?

A. I heard about A Friend for You through Family Medicine, the nurse and social worker connected me to this resource because I asked them if they knew of any support groups or someone I could talk to.

Q. What about A Friend for You sounded interesting that you wanted to join?

A. I was having a hard time emotionally due to no in person support groups and feeling like I had no good friends to talk to. I wanted to meet someone through here that actually cared about me. I was looking for a friend and resources and support because I felt isolated and alone during my pregnancy since it was during COVID. I was interested and curious in what A Friend for You was all about and I wanted to be brave and call. My social worker and a nurse talked about how good the program is.

Q. Who was your Volunteer Friend, and how did your relationship with your friend develop?

A. My volunteer friend is Dasha. I called A Friend for You and spoke with a lady that connected me to Dasha. Dasha actually called me the next day and was so excited to meet me, she sounded super friendly over the phone and that made me braver to meet her. I get shy or have social anxiety but I felt like I could trust her. Dasha told me all about herself and she was so interested to learn about me too, so we got to know each other right away. I felt comfortable opening up the first day we met at a park. She listened to me and gave me a lot of advice and she cared, I felt valued. Dasha even invited me to her church and suggested our kids meet. She also texts me often to check on me how I am doing and she is nonjudgmental. Our kids met and they got along right away and they could play in the park for hours! Dasha talks about new places to go to in the future because she wants to be my friend for a long time. She is kind and a sweet person, I need more good people like her in my life that I can count on.

Q. Did Dasha connect you with any other resources/opportunities in the community?

A. She talked about sports we can put our kids in together. She mentioned her church as a community support that I could join too. She was able to get me cooked meals to my home when I had my newborn son and that helped me so much!

Q. What kinds of things have you and Morgan done together?

A. We went to the park together in fort Collins and in Windsor area. We went to the centerra area and walked around. Dasha came to my home to see my baby and she said I could visit her too someday. We are talking about going to places like the zoo too when my son is a bit bigger (so its safer to go due to COVID and when I heal from c section). We still have many other places to go together!

Q. This has been an interesting time being pregnant. How has having Dasha during this time helped you?

A. I joined towards my end of pregnancy, I wish I joined sooner. I felt like I was stuck at home and I felt lonely and isolated. I didn’t know anyone pregnant or going through the same things as me. Ive always felt judged since I had my first son very young so with this pregnancy I wanted to make sure I had a support system so that I can be a better mother this time. However, this time COVID made it a bit harder too. It helped having Dasha to talk to because she’s understanding. At the time, there were no other in person groups to join and no mom support groups either. I felt like I was going to fail as a mother with now COVID as my barrier (before it was young single mother)…I was overwhelmed and stressed and overthinking. Even now I worry that my baby can catch COVID. I asked Dasha about vaccinations and her thoughts on if I should be vaccinated. I asked her about labor and how her labor experience was because I was so nervous for a c section again. I liked how Dasha could see me in person, I felt like I needed to go out even if its just the park. I also dont have a lot of friends because I just moved to Loveland so having Dasha was great so that I could feel like I had at least one person that cared about me. We have the same values and we both have two sons now, so it was good to connect with someone who I can relate to. Her boys are close to my first sons age. My husband works a lot so I didn’t want to become an antisocial person or have depression or post partum depression, so I reached out to her. I feel like having Dasha helped me not get post partum depression (through my pregnancy I was remembering my abusive ex relationship with my first sons dad and I was overthinking that this one could be like that too but its actually been going well). I am stronger now and it has helped me that I opened up to Dasha about that a bit.

Q. What did you think about the gifts A Friend for You sent during your pregnancy (the gifts that were mailed to you)?

A. These were amazing, they made my day! I felt important and valued and like someone remembered me! I don’t get things in the mail so it was a total surprise especially when it was random, it was exciting seeing who it was from and what the gifts were. And the gifts were very thoughtful and something that I hadn’t received before. I liked that someone thought of the cute self-care things, and water bottle that tracks pregnancy, and morning sickness candy, and tea. I definitely used all of those and it helped me feel better. It made me more excited for my baby and motivated that I should be more happy rather than nervous or worried about my c section/labor. It reminded me to do some self-care.

Q. What did you think about the post-pregnancy meals and gift package?

A. These were so delicious and I even asked for the recipes! These helped me so much when I couldn’t get out of bed to make meals due to healing from c section. I was so sleepy and had many emotions and was trying to get a routine down, and I also have my son home with me because its summer time so no school (that kept me really busy at home too)…so the meals were super helpful with saving me time! We all shared a meal at the end of the day and we were able to talk about how the day was so this was a great moment as a family with good food. It a nice smart idea thanks so much! I am also not a good cook so this made me curious to look into recipes like these.

Q. Is there anything else you would like to share? (this can be about A Friend for You or Dasha?

A. I am glad a program like this exists because sometimes us women feel alone and we need someone who cares to listen to what we are going through. I heard that if we have at least one person in our lives that cares, that person can make a difference. Especially during Covid, with higher rates of depression and suicide, it’s important that every person has a positive support or someone who can check on them or give resources. At the time, i couldn’t find anything in person to join and telehealth wasn’t working for me, so having her in person to talk to helped me so much. I learned how to ask for help and be braver about my social anxiety.

Q. Would you recommend someone who is pregnant to get connected with A Friend for You?

A. yes for sure! Great for prevention and for having a friend and a resource and support! She is there for me even if I were to text or call at night, she answers my questions I have about my baby and pregnancy. I can share my story and count on her.

“I am glad a program like this exists because sometimes us women feel alone and we need someone who cares to listen to what we are going through. I heard that if we have at least one person in our lives that cares, that person can make a difference.”

Dasha’s Story

Q. How long have you been involved with A Friend for You?

A. I have joined in November 2020.

Q. What about the A Friend for You drew you to get involved?

A. When I first read about A Friend for You in a community magazine, I knew it’s something I wanted to do right away. I believe that children are a blessing from God, that their lives matter, but as a mom myself I also know that it can be hard to go through pregnancy and to raise children, it can feel very lonely, sometimes overwhelming and even depressing. So I wanted to join this organization to be a friend and have a friend so we can support each other through this season of life.

Q. How many women have you “friended?”

A. I just have one friend, Yaricza.

Q. What things have you and Yaricza done together?

A. We have gone on playground dates and walked in the park. I also visited her once when her baby son was born. We also message each other and plan to do more fun activities together with kids this coming year.

Q. What would you like to share about Yaricza?

A. First I want to say that I feel very blessed to have her as my friend. I feel like we connected right away from our fist conversation over the phone. She has the sweetest personality! We easily opened up to each other and we both just wanted to be friends and I think that’s the best part. Yaricza has a lot on her shoulders between work, family, her son’s recreational activities, but she still finds time to invest in the friendship. And through all these things that I can see her kind heart.

Q. What kind of growth have you seen in Yaricza?

A. Yaricza loves her children and her family, I can see that she wants the best for them. She is very courageous, I have seen it when her birth plan didn’t go the way she wanted, she didn’t complain about it, she just had the courage to do what doctors were advising her to do and she wanted the best for her baby. She is also very caring and thoughtful, I can see that when she speaks to her children, the way she takes care of her puppy, and when she just talks to me and my kids, and I really like that about her. I am looking forward to get to know her more and grow together.

Q. What do you specifically enjoy about being a Volunteer Friend?

A. I feel very thankful for the opportunity to connect to other women, specifically Yaricza. If it wasn’t for A Friend for You we probably wouldn’t have never met. I like all the support the organization provides to us as volunteers and our pregnant friends. I also like that they are generous with gifts that I could take to Yaricza to brighten her day.

Q. What would you say to someone who is interested in volunteering with A Friend for You?

A. I would say you should do it and don’t even think about it because it will be a blessing to you.

Q. Do you believe that A Friend for You is a worthwhile organization? If so, why?

A. Definitely, there is nothing more important than having relationships with people. God didn’t create us to be alone. We need each other to go through life, and I feel like women especially crave that connection as we can relate to each other.

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Gabriella and Kay Talk About Their Friendship

Q. When did you participate in A Friend for You?

A. I participated in A Friend for You on August 21st, 2019. 

Q. Why did you feel the need to reach out to A Friend for You?

A. I felt the need to reach out to A Friend for You because I was new to the area and needed a friend to help me with my depression.

Q. Who is your Volunteer Friend, and how did your relationship with Kay develop?

A. My friend is Kay, we started out texting each other and then went out to lunch and on walks in the parks/trails around town. 

Q. Did Kay connect you with any other resources/opportunities in the community?

A. Yes, she did! She connected me to the food bank and Birthline in Loveland where I met and made more friends.

Q. What kinds of things have you and Kay done in spending time together?

A. We have gone out to lunch and walks in the park and some shopping.

Q. How often would you get together?

A. We try to meet together every week.

Q. Anything else you would like to share about your Friend, Kay?

A. Kay has welcomed me with open arms and has never passed judgement on me. She has helped me through my depression and my pregnancy. She has given me tons of advice and guidance on so many things.

Q. What did you think about the Care for You delivery?

A. The meals and care package are an awesome idea! The meals were so delicious! The care package helped me out with feeling of getting back to normal.

Q. How did calling A Friend for You benefit you?

A. Calling A Friend for You was the best thing I had ever done. It has helped me so much with my depression and trust issues. And has helped me make new friends!

Q. Would you recommend A Friend for You to another woman, and if so, what would you tell her?

A. Yes, I would and have! I would tell her that A Friend for You helps you find the resources you need for you and the baby but also you are gaining a friend that you can talk to through the process. Also, through A Friend for You I have gained more than a friend but family in the process!

“Kay has welcomed me with open arms and has never passed judgement on me. She has helped me through my depression and my pregnancy.”

Kay’s Story

Q. How long have you been involved with A Friend for You?

A. I have been a part of A Friend for You for about a year now. 

Q. What about A Friend for You drew you to get involved?

A: The opportunity to help women when they need support and encouragement from a trusted friend.

Q. Describe your experience as a Volunteer Friend. What things did you and Gabby do together?

A. Things have gone well for Gabby and I from the start. We have tried to see each other several times a month and we visit over coffee or take a walk when the weather allows. 

Q. What kind of growth have you seen in yourself since becoming a Volunteer Friend?

A. I have tried to focus on giving myself to Gabby without any expectations for our friendship. 

Q. What kind of growth have you seen in Gabby?

A. I have seen Gabby willing to open up to me over time and it has been great to hear that our relationship has helped her with her trust issues.

Q. Do you still keep in touch with Gabby?

A. I want to maintain my friendship with Gabby as long as she wants to have a friendship. I am hopeful it will grow even more meaningful to us both over time. 

Q. Tell me about your most rewarding experience with A Friend for You.

A. It has been very important for me to give myself in friendship to someone even though I have challenges in my own life to deal with. I can be a friend to and help Gabby no matter what is going on in my life. 

Q. What has been the most difficult aspect of being a Volunteer Friend?

A. Time

Q. What would you say to someone who is interested in volunteering with A Friend for You?

A. It is definitely a wonderful thing to be involved with!

Q. Do you believe A Friend for You is a worthwhile organization? If so, why?

A. I believe it is very worthwhile. I believe it is so important for me to allow God to use me in other people’s lives and I’m very thankful that I learned about A Friend for You and have become a part of this ministry. 

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Meet Vania & Marty

Vania’s Story

Q. How did you hear about A Friend 4U?

A. I heard about A Friend 4U through Matthews House during my first pregnancy in January 2020.

Q. What about A Friend 4U sounded interesting that you wanted to join?

A. It was the support. I don’t have any family or relatives nearby so going through pregnancy by myself sounded really hard so I was looking for that type of support. It was good to have somebody that can check in on me and that I can call.

Q. You have been friends with Marty through both of your pregnancies! What would you like to share about her?

A. She is great person! Every time she sends me a text or a call, it’s good to hear from her. Knowing that I was on her mind is special. It was really nice that I could call her, when I was going through hard times. She was really neutral when I would share things. I’m thankful and grateful that I got into the program because she helped me feel better and it is a great support. She was able to go to appointments with me and it felt like that I wasn’t alone since my family lives far away. I moved out of state temporarily and she stayed in touch during the time I was away with texts or phone calls. When I moved back into town, we now see each other now in person.

When I needed something specific and special, she took the time to help me. For my second baby’s shower, I asked her to make a baby basket out of a watermelon. Even though she had never made one, she did. Oh my, I was so touched! Since I’m breastfeeding, I asked her if I could bring some Mother’s Milk tea. She found it and also made me some lactation cookies.

Q. Did Marty connect you with any other resources/opportunities in the community?

A. She recommended a pregnancy resource fair that I got a lot of things for my first child and am using for my second child. She also went with me to pregnancy classes at UC Health.

Q. This has been an interesting time being pregnant during COVID. How has having Marty during this time helped you?

A. It’s been really good since we stay in touch and she always checks in on me. It feels so good to know that you’re not alone.

Q. What did you think about the post-pregnancy meals and gift package?

A. It was so nice! The creams were so good. It was so sweet to get everything.

Q. Is there anything else you would like to share?

A. I’m grateful that you [A Friend 4U] are in the community, especially for those who are away from family like me.

Q. Would you recommend someone who is pregnant to reach out to A Friend 4U?

A: Yes. It’s nice to have to have someone to count on. Especially during pregnancy you need all the help you can get. It’s a big transition in your life. 

When I needed something specific and special, she took the time to help me. For my second baby’s shower, I asked her to make a baby basket out of a watermelon. Even though she had never made one, she did. Oh my, I was so touched!

Marty’s Story

Q. How long have you been involved with A Friend 4U?

A. A little over 4 years.

Q. What about the A Friend 4U drew you to get involved?

A. I think pregnancy can be a special time in one’s life.  For people who have an unplanned pregnancy that can be a very scary and difficult time.  I wanted to do whatever I could do to help these women during this time in whatever way they may need help.  I feel privileged being let into their life. 

Q. How many women have you “friended?”

A. I have friended several who have moved away but have 3 friends that I am in contact with including my first Friend from 2017.  

Q. What things have you and Vania done together?

A. Her husband was gone for her first birthing class, so I went with her for that and I had only met her once before that night. We also meet for lunch, went to some of her Dr’s appointments and held her newborn babies. Last week I was able to meet her mom who surprised her coming from Mexico for a visit. 

Q. What would you like to share about Vania?

A. She is a sweet, lovely woman who is a great mom.  I’ve enjoyed getting to know her and look forward to a continued relationship with her. 

Q. What kind of growth have you seen in Vania?

A. She was very scared at her first birth – both to give birth and to be a mom.  She is a great mom and very comfortable in that role now. 

Q. What do you specifically enjoy about being a Volunteer Friend?

A. Just getting to know each friend and listening to them and helping in any way I can. 

Q. Any last thoughts you would like to share about A Friend 4U?

A. 1 Peter 4:10 says ” each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace…”   God has allowed me to serve and love these women through A Friend 4U and I hope they will see God’s love thru me.  A Friend 4U is a great support for these wonderful women.